21 Apr 2010

My wedding on a budget

While I wait for better photos of my outfit to be available to show you (without the groom by my side as he doesn't want his face all over the internet - and I can't blame him), I thought I'd share my recent experience in organising a wedding on a budget in a limited time.

At the bar

The first thing to keep in mind is that a wedding is basically a big party for your friends and family, so instead of the bride hat, put on your party planning hat, it will save you some stress. I suppose I was always particularly laid-back about the whole thing so it made things easier to begin with.

♥ If you are in the UK, the first step is to go to the registry office to publish the bans and set a date for the wedding. This initial appointment will cost you around £30 each.

♥ Once the date is set, you need to decide whether you want to have the ceremony at the town hall or in an approved venue. We wanted something very simple, so we opted for a Town Hall wedding (£300 for a room containing up to 50 people). They still give you a choice of ceremonies, so you can be as romantic or as legal as you want. On the day, you can bring a cd with your own music etc.
These are the two wedding costs you can't escape. After that, it is all up to you.

♥ After the first appointment at the town hall to set the date, we sent out a first save the date by email to our friends and internet savvy members of the family. A simple phone call to the others is enough at this stage.

♥ I made the invitations myself using good old photoshop and had them printed on moo postcards. The result was cute enough and conveyed the idea that we didn't want a "wedding wedding". The total cost of invites + envelopes + stamps was around £60 (and we have some left).

♥ For the venue, we were lucky enough to have a really beautiful little pub almost next door to the town hall (well 15 mn walk away). Since it is not a busy pub at the weekend, the owner left it to us for free for a few hours in the afternoon. All we had to do was to set up a bar tab for drinks. The amount is up to you, but plan around £10-12 per person.
The key to get a venue for less is to never EVER utter the word "wedding".

♥ The food is an important part of any wedding. The best way to escape the cost of a full lunch or dinner is to  have an afternoon reception with only canapés and cakes. Waitrose offers a catering service which is tasty and much cheaper than a traditional catering company. For cakes, however, we opted for a local online bakery called Bittersweets. Arianna bakes the most delicious cupcakes and they made everyone very happy!

Questionable Photo of Bride
(I told you the food was tasty)
Photo Bitchbuzz

Cupcakes


♥ Hair & Make-up: the day before the wedding, I went to Daniel Hersheson's blow-dry bar in Topshop and got my hair done for £22. I did my make-up myself. I will show you how very soon!


♥ Last but not least, the bride and groom outfits... The groom didn't wear a suit. He wore nice chinos and a shirt. Which means he looked like himself and didn't spend millions on his outfit. As for me, I opted for a Luella dress. It was £270 reduced from £700, which is a lot, but still much cheaper than any entry level wedding dress. I didn't want to wear a wedding dress anyway! 
Designer dresses are generally a good option as a "regular" one will set you back between £400 and £700, but you will be able to wear it over and over again.
My shoes were the Michelle in gold by Jeffrey Campbell (£80) and again, I will be able to wear them on other occasions.


Weddings are not a cheap affair, especially considering the ceremony itself is pricey,  but there is no reason to spend all your money on it! I think my main advice is to stay calm, and always keep in mind that what matters is who you marry, not where, how and what you wear. You can have the perfect wedding in your head, but something can happen that may ruin your day (a volcano for example) so it is primordial to be super chilled about everything and to keep your eyes on the prize: your future husband!

I have to say mine is pretty cool.
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35 comments

  1. Wow - you look beautiful. Very you but as a bride. And those SHOES! Never seen them before, love them!

    You were lucky to get the pub for free! Looks perfect.

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  2. Sounds like you had a great, and perfectly you, day. You definitely have the right priorities, at the end of the day you just want family and friends to enjoy your day with, no fuss or meringue dress needed.

    Hope you had a wonderful day! You look lovely by the way.

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    x

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  3. Wow... this is exactly how i want my wedding to be - Fun & Sweet! I'll rather spend money on the honeymoon than the party! hee! Love the Luella dress, can't wait to see more pictures of it! xxx Now operation Husband Hunt!

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  4. I LOVE this post! Spot on. Cogratulations Mrs whatever-your-married-name is. PS, those cupcakes are killing me...

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  5. Rollergirl - I ain't changing my name, so it still is Mrs Wajnapel :)

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  6. Congratulations! You're wedding looks so much fun. I'm currently helping plan a wedding for my best friends, my partner is with his best friends and he's hinting at a ring too so we have weddings on our minds! Lovely to see what you've done! Your dress was gorgeous and if you have any leftover cupcakes to send up north.... ;)

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  7. Congratulations! You look lovely. I think smaller budget weddings often come across as more personal and intimate, which is what I'd want if I ever get married.

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  8. I love everything about your wedding. The dress is fabulous, and I've wanted those shoes since you first posted about them. Can't wait to see more pictures. Oh, and the cupcakes look divine!

    Congratulations!!

    Are you to be known as Madame Robot from here on?! haha!

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  9. Love the dress, cakes and shoes! So glad you had a fabulous day. Congratulations to you both xx

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  10. Such a good post! I've always feared wedding planning in my mind because it's one of those things people typically make a huge deal of.
    Your wedding sounds exactly how I'd want mine. You look wonderful. If she's bounced back, I am so wearing Luella on my wedding day. Can't wait to see other pictures!!
    Congratulations xxx

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  11. We did exactly the same for our wedding. It doesn't have to cost the earth for a wonderful day to remember. Your point about not mentioning the word 'wedding' is a good one.

    Congratulations! And you look beautiful too. :)

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  12. Congratulations. You look beautiful. I love the flowers in your hair. Lx.

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  13. Congratulations to you and your husband :)

    You look so beautiful, love the rose hairband a top your tousled head.

    I have sent this link onto a few of my friend's who have pending nuptials and are spending more cash than they have on their weddings!

    We got married abroad but had a party for family and friend's when we got home. We hired a barn and furnished it with shabby chic bunting from Country Bunting and vintage milk bottles from Ebay with a few roses in them. We hired an old fashioned blue and cream fish and chip van and fed everyone a traditional English feast of fish and chips :) Everyone loved it and cost us a fraction of the cost of an average UK wedding!

    xoxo

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  14. Very inspirational, and you looked beautiful!
    Thanks for sharing.
    X

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  15. Thanks for your wedding tips, it's good to know that you can get married without spending a fortune.
    Big weddings can be really stuffy and uncomfortable and yours just looked so laid-back and fun. congrats! x

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  16. Congratulations Mademoiselle (now Madame?) Robot, you look gorgeous in your Luella. Hope you all had a lovely day :)

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  17. You look fabulous and from the sound of it the wedding went fantastically. This is such great advice for people not wanting to blow their budget on a huge wedding.

    ps~ I love that your reception was in a pub!

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  18. CONGRATZ!

    You look beautiful and as long as you had a wonderful day it's all that matters <333

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  19. A lovely post- thanks for sharing your tips. We haven't even begun to start planning our wedding because of lack of money. So it is really comforting to know you had a beautiful day with out sepending thousands of pounds. Perhaps ours will be sooner than we thought! :)
    Congratulations, you look beautiful in your pics and I hope you are both very happy. x

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  20. Anonymous21.4.10

    First off, congrats!! I so agree with you in that there is no reason to spend so much on a wedding. You look so pretty and that Luella dress is super cute!

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  21. you are really, really beautiful in your dress.. I love the flowers in your hair! it sounds like you had a great time. I agree with keeping a wedding simple and not going so overboard with it all.. how many women plan their wedding and forget what it's all about in the first place?

    congratulations, lovely bride!

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  22. Anonymous21.4.10

    Hello pretty bride! Ca fait du bien de lire que je ne suis pas la seule à préférer la simplicité à la démesure.
    xoxo

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  23. Beautiful! Congratulations, Mrs! I loved this post, and Husband and I paid for our wedding ourselves! It was at a ballroom that had loads of pool tables, photobooth, and video games for our friends to enjoy, and our parents cooked all the food in our taco bar! My favorite weddings are always the ones where everyone is having a blast and can be themselves!

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  24. Congratulations again, you looked perfectly gorgeous and happy! Very glad my cakes, in their little way, helped to make your day special! x Arianna

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  25. CONGRATULATIONS!! You look so beautiful. The first shot is gorgeous and i love your dress and hair!! xx

    http://mocha-soy-whippy.blogspot.com/

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  26. Laetitia,

    You look gorgeous and so happy. Such a perfect outfit for a stylish girl like you. I let wedding plans stress me out when I got married. And in the end, you're right, it's just a big party. Hope you're planning something fun and romantic without the baby.

    I miss our chats and working together =(

    Sandra

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  27. The sweetest post I have ever read. I have always thought that a massive lavish wedding was the way to go but the intimacy (and stress-free) show you out together is enough to make a girl think twice.

    Congratulations on your nuptials, may you have wedded bliss to match your undeniable cuteness.

    Much Love
    Steph

    www.londonscatwalk.blogsot.com

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  28. A million congrats lady! You look absolutely beautiful :)

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  29. I'm so glad you did this post.

    I had a registry wedding this past July and wore a grey silk gown that I got on sale at Fenwicks. Bond st. My jewellery was all vintage that my parents had both for me or that I had both with them (so they had some meaning) and my hair was just in a simple braid. We had paperless invitations (although moo is a very good choice!) and we gave out tree saplings as wedding favours (english oak and silver birch.

    I know a lot of people feel sorry for me as if I had a peasants wedding but I felt beautiful on the day and we had a good time and that's what counts isn't it?

    Sometimes I see these reality TV weddings and I want to barf! Who spends 5000+ on a dress that they will never wear again?

    You look beautiful and content in the pictures, I hope it was a wonderful day for you!

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  30. It sounds really lovely overall, and some good tips! I LOVE your dress, it's so pretty, and it's great that you will be able to wear it more than once for sure.

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  31. aw it sounds great! I saw you in Topshop running towards the hair thing and I was wondering why you looked so flustered now I realise you were getting married /stalker
    I love your hair thing for the wedding too. And I think your dress looked much better than any traditional dress

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  32. wooaa... je n'avais jamais entendu ce genre de point de vue sur l organisation d un mariage, je dois dire que ca donne plus envie que de se prendre la tete pendant 5 mois sur les invitations !

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  33. I KNEW it was a Luella dress! It pleases me that I was sad enough to recognise the little dungaree bits on the other photo and know it was Luella. Also, those shoes are AMAZING. The unicorn heel and the frilly trim that looks a bit like a shirt collar... just amazing!!

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  34. Anonymous26.4.10

    Looks like such a lovely day... and you look so lovely too. The party planning thing is such good advice - mainly as I'm discovering that I'm such a bad wedding planner but parties I can do ;)

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  35. Anonymous6.7.10

    This sounds EXACTLY like how my UK wedding was.

    A year and a half on, I don't regret one thing about it.

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